How to Discern Your Vocation
Information from Vision Vocation Network
At the heart of the “American Dream” is the idea that one can be anything one wants to be. The glory of living in a free nation is that we have the opportunity to make of ourselves what we will. We are taught from a young age that it is important to be true to our dreams and to plot a course for our lives. The problem though, for a person of faith, is that it can potentially leave God out of the decision-making process.
Vocation comes from the Latin word, vocare, “to call.” It is a calling, a calling from God, who made us, loves us, and has a plan for us. Discernment, then, is different from simply making a decision about a career path or lifestyle. Discernment starts in faith, where we acknowledge God as the source of vocation, involve God in the decision-making process through prayer, and actively listen for God’s will.
Vocation is a two-way gift
God really does want us to be happy. When it comes to a vocation we sometimes struggle to believe that. Perhaps we fear that God will ask us to do something we will hate. Maybe we think God’s will is a sentence to a dreadful life. On the contrary, in John’s gospel Christ says: “I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly” (John 10:10).
But what will make us really happy? The Second Vatican Council teaches that it is through self-giving that we are fulfilled as human beings. So vocation is not only something given to us, something we receive, it is also something we freely give to God and others.
God preserves our freedom
Because vocation is something we give to God, it is important that we have the freedom to make this offering. God gives us real choices. We have the freedom to marry or enter religious life or remain single. We have the freedom to pursue this or that line of work. If we are not in a place in life where we are free to commit to a vocation (perhaps due to an immaturity, an undue fear, or an addiction), then we must increase in our freedom before we can make a vocational choice. God, rest assured, helps us in this process.
Furthermore, as long as we are not choosing something evil, God respects the choices we make. We must not believe, as so many in discernment do, that God will reject us if we make the “wrong” choice. On the one hand God really does call us to vocations. On the other God respects our freedom and does not abandon us.
A key insight shared by many saints is that spiritual growth begins in self-knowledge.
God, who will sanctify us through our vocation, has already endowed us with a certain nature. Ordinarily the grace of our vocation will build upon this nature. An awareness of our personal gifts and weaknesses can help us considerably in gaining a sense of which vocations are possible for us and which are probably not wise paths for us to take.
Along these lines, it is also important to listen to our hearts, to be attentive to those relationships and activities that give us the most peace and joy. In addition, our dreams and desires are significant. These may even be the promptings of the Holy Spirit showing us ways to creatively respond to God’s call.
Christ is the way, the truth, and the life
An authentic Christian vocation is always rooted first of all in being a disciple of Jesus Christ. To better know God’s will for our lives and follow it is imperative that we first come to know Jesus Christ and begin to model our lives after his. By encountering the Word of God in scripture, we receive the light that “enlightens everyone” (John 1:9). His life inspires, motivates, and directs ours. By receiving Christ in the sacraments we receive the grace that will empower us to pursue our vocation. By living according to his precepts, we develop the strength to follow him in bigger things later. By surrounding ourselves with God’s people, the body of Christ, we discover the necessary support to initially try out a vocation and later to commit to it and live it out. Before we can be an apostle, “one who is sent,” we must first be a disciple, “one who follows.”
Find your place in the symphony
It helps in discernment, then, to get as involved with the faith community as you can. It is by taking part in the life of the church and trying out different instruments—at the parish, on mission trips, in Bible studies, in lay apostolate groups—that you will most naturally find your place in the symphony.
Ask for help
No one can discern a vocation alone. One’s friends, ministers, family members, and fellow parishioners can be helpful sources of support and insight. These folks can often see things in us that we don’t readily perceive. As one progresses a little bit along the path of discernment, a spiritual director is often necessary, especially if one is discerning priesthood or religious life.
Another source of help is the saints. They are also our brothers and sisters in the church and they are wonderful intercessors on our behalf. A number of saints are designated patrons of particular vocations, so if one is considering that vocation it is a good idea to ask that saint for help. For example, the famous 20th-century monk Thomas Merton explains that he had reached an impasse in his discernment and felt unable to move forward. He turned to the help of Saint Thérèse of Lisieux, who had promised to help young priests, and very quickly after that he obtained the grace to know which religious community he should enter.
God writes straight with crooked lines
A man or women who is approaching their wedding date can be overcome by a sense of unworthiness to marry his future spouse, much less to be entrusted with the children they hoped to have one day. Even someone approaching his ordination to the priesthood can feel a similar sense of dread as they become acutely aware of their own sinfulness.
Scripture reminds us, though, that God writes straight with crooked lines. Whatever we have done or whoever we have been in the past, God can still use us. We have only to recall Saints Peter, Paul, and Mary Magdalene to be reminded what God can do with weak human beings!
Discernment is not your vocation
Perhaps the most helpful bit of wisdom in discernment is remembering that “Discernment is not your vocation.” There comes a time in the process of exploring who we are and what we want to do with our lives, that we must take a risk and try something. God rewards our efforts, and God can do much more with a mistake than with inertia.